Welcome to week #2 of the #NoShameInMyMomGame spotlight! So far I'm on schedule with these blog posts....2 out of 2 weeks. Gonna call that a win!
This week I am so happy that I got a chance to interview Kelly from @HelloWorldPaperCo. We actually live in the same state but have never met! We need to change that ASAP!
Here's just a little tidbit about all the awesome stuff Kelly does!
Kelly Parker Smith is a pattern designer, podcaster, teacher, and shop owner from the Midwest. She is obsessed with rubber stamps, giving back, and colorful patterns. Her designs are quirky, surprising, and inspired by her brain that never stops in a world with so much to see! When she is not working, Kelly enjoys spending time with her husband, three boys, and their rescue kitten, Katniss.
Alright, let's dive into the interview so you can learn more!!
Ok Kelly....my favorite icebreaker question... What's one song you know all the words to that would surprise people?
I'm a human jukebox, but if I had to pick one people are surprised that I know all the words to Regulators by Nate Dogg and Warren G.
Tell us about your life as a mom! How many kids do you have? How old are they?
I have three boys ages 16, 15 and 5. We are a yours, mine, and ours family which is why there is such a big age gap. However, build in babysitters pretty much rock!
What does a typical day look like for you as a mom?
Our weekdays are crazy. I get up at 5:15 every morning to wake up my 15 year old so that he gets ready for football conditioning before school. Then I go back to bed until he's ready. Once he is ready I grab the sleeping 5 year old and we load up the car. I drop the 15 year old off at school at 6:15 then go home and grab breakfast for the little guy who of course doesn't go back to sleep because he wants to watch his favorite YouTubbers. At 7:30 I start getting the 5 year old ready. He has severe allergies so we start with his medicine routine, get dressed, teeth, hair, ect. I'm usually walking out the door when I realize I didn't find his shoes, check his school folder or pack his lunch so then we are usually late. Yes, I get up at 5:15 am and my kid is usually late for school. haha! Once everyone is at school I get to work in my home office. School for the little guy is over at 2:55pm and then we go home for a little bit before we have to pick up the 15 year old at 5:00pm since he has volleyball practice after school. If there is no practice there is a game at 4:30pm. Watching my son play sports is my favorite part of the week! We stay for his game (JV) and then watch Varsity too. We get home around 7:00pm if it's a home game and 8-9pm if it's away. Then it's dinner, homework, a bath struggle, and then bed. My kids don't need a lot of sleep and the 5 year old is working on sleeping in his own bed so around 9pm I lay with him in his bed, I usually fall asleep in there until 10:30 and then move to my bed. Around 1:00am he comes into our bed and snuggles with me. He says I'm more comfortable than his bed. I'm tired. Weekends make up for it though when we get to hang out as a family watching our favorite movies, cooking together, and going to fun places like the zoo or the park.
Look at this fun stamp Kelly creates from beginning to end. Too cool!
What drives you crazy about your kids?
They are boys. They fart a lot and leave a mess wherever they go, but I taught them how to do their own laundry and clean a toilet so it works out.
What's your favorite thing about your kids?
My kids want to be around me. I don't know how I got so lucky to have teenagers who like to hang out with mom. They even went with me to see Beauty and the Beast! They treat me like a princess and my five year old tells me I'm gorgeous. Who wouldn't love that?
Can you share with us a time you felt shamed as a mom?
I'm pretty laid back as a mom. I can't remember a specific incident when I felt shamed as a mom, but let's put it this way, my son had a pacifier until he was four, he's five and still sleeps with us most nights, his hair has a mind of it's own, and I let him dress himself most days. He even wore his Flash pajamas every where we went for like a month. My kids love YouTube, playing video games, and candy. Sometimes I even let them have dessert for dinner or bring their tablet to the table if there is a restaurant I want to try BESIDES McDonald's. I have been shamed by words, by looks, and by gossiping busy bodies who think they are better than everyone. No one is safe from the busy bodies.
I also have a chronic illness. I have Crohn's disease and when I am sick it doesn't allow me to participate in my kids' life the way I would want to. Since I started working from home my stress level is a lot lower so my symptoms don't flare up as much as they used to, but back when my oldest was five or so I was really ill. I was so sick at one point I couldn't even drive him anywhere and I was in and out of the hospital so I missed a lot of activities for him. Luckily I had my mom around to help out, but if you just looked at me you couldn't tell I was sick and in constant pain so I always felt people judging me and some even called me lazy. I couldn't ride buses on field trips, travel long distances, or go camping with my son's cub scout troop so I was considered the distant, uninterested, snobby parent. If they only took the time to get to know me they would have seen how far from the truth that was.
How did you handle that situation?
I let it go. My kids are kind, smart, and funny and other people who shame me for my parenting style are just jealous. My kids are growing up to be well rounded individuals and I encourage their independent spirit. My oldest is first in his class with straight As, plays two sports, was elected as Freshman Class President, and still finds the time to watch our show (Grimm) with me while sharing a bowl of Sour Patch Kids. My youngest is reading a grade level ahead, has an active imagination, and gives the best hugs. I handle every mom shaming situation by looking at my kids, smiling, and giving them a hug because they are awesome and I wouldn't change a thing! Shame away busy bodies if it makes you feel good, you can't touch us!
(This is Nicke talking....I'm pretty sure you can imagine how much I love that attitude! Hell yes Kelly!)
Fair warning...don't mess with that mama! :)
What surprised you the most when you became a mother?
People told me that when I had a baby I would never sleep. I thought they just meant I wouldn't sleep until the baby slept through the night. I didn't realize that they meant I wouldn't sleep again - EVER! If the five year old isn't keeping me up at night the 15 year old needs help with homework or has loud friends over. There is no sleep. I'm so tired.
What's one thing you wish you could share with anyone who might feel the need to shame a mother for her choices?
Shaming other mothers for their choices is pathetic. Grow up. Worry about yourself and the choices you are making in your own life. I'm sure you are doing the best you can just like everyone else.
What's the one thing you said you would NEVER do as a mom that you ended up doing?
I always said I would NEVER have a mini van. However, I am looking to get get a new car in the fall and I'm contemplating it. I just said CONTEMPLATING! There is NO commitment yet! Omg.
(Nicke talking again...Obvi she needs to become a member of the Minivan Mafia, right??!!)
Who's your "mom crush"?
Caroline Hull from Caroline Creates, my podcast co-host on Creative Biz Rebellion is my mom crush. She home schools her kids and I wish I had the patience/time for that. I would be the coolest home schooling momma!
Check out this podcast guys!!
Can you share with us one of your "mom hacks?" Anything that can get us through the day or a tip or trick that has worked for you?
talk to Siri a lot. "Siri, remind me to pick up Henry at 2:45" "Siri, remind me to get milk." "Siri, remind me tomorrow at noon to take a shower." It works. I also changed Siri to be a guy with an Australian accent so he's easier to talk too. The girl sounds like she's judging my grocery list.
Finish this sentence...."There's no shame in my mom game but I'm also kick ass at...."
snuggling and holding hands. (I asked my 5 year old what I was good at.)
Currently binge watching on Netflix?
Gilmore Girls & The Magicians
Favorite way to get alone time?
My son hates the smell of essential oils so if I need alone time I just rub some on and veg out. He stays at least 20 feet away from me for a good hour. haha!
Drink of choice?
McDonald's Coke if I'm feeling frisky. I don't drink anything but water usually.
Tell us something else you love about yourself.
I love that the older I get the happier I am with my little life. I appreciate what I have and understand how lucky I am to have such a kick ass family and job.
Along with kick ass stamps she also makes kick ass patterns.
Tell us your #noshameinmymomgame mantra!
Don't judge. You never know what is happening in someone's life that drives the choices they have to make.
If you could give one piece of loving advice to yourself, and all the other women out there, what would it be?
Find happiness in your own life now. Stop wishing for your kids to get older and stop saying that we only need _______ to be happy. Once we have ______ we will be happy. Be happy now. Find the joy in the everyday and squeeze it tight!!
Thank you so much Kelly for keeping it real with us & being a part of the blog this week!
You can find Kelly via the following links. Please head over and give her some love!
Pattern Design: https://www.instagram.com/kellyparkersmith
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Until next week...